A fist is not for feast..!!

When the anger taking control...

Living in this civilized century, I never thought I still can found people that still depends on fist to live. I don't see them bad but for me, you have to know when you can use that fist. Don't use it as your every day routine. When the fist come out, means that you are losing control of yourself and of course it also means that you're losing control of your anger. Cause you won't feel you wanna punch people when you sad or happy right?
Do correct me if I'm too judgemental but is it right when your fist is working faster than your mind?? Let say, if one old man drive the car too slow because he was looking for a parking, and you happened to be behind his car. Is it right for you to knock the window and give a slap on his face first without sayig anything and ordered him to park faster caused he made a traffic jam behind him. I couldn't accept that! It show you how uncivilized the person are. Unfortunately that is a true story.
That guy actually boasted that he slapped the old man becaused he was driving slow. Dude, where is your manners???!! It's very annoying to hear that. There are few reasons why I really cannot accept that kind of act. First: my father also used to drive slow and when he was looking for a parking, the speed decrease till I felt that I'm still in driving school. So, I'm sure I don't want my father to get the same treatment like that. Its a fair treatment for me. I belive how you want to be treated, thats how you should treat people.
Second: We don't know what's going on in the car. Who know's maybe the driver has a headache that time, so the concentration to drive been disturbed. That's why he been very careful driving with that limited ability. Well, I know the examples sounds kinda nonsenses but you got my point. Just because you don't know the situation, you can't just depends on assumptions. Is it hard for you to knock and ask first whats going on and ask politely for them to park faster..?? I don't see anything wrong doing that.
I'm not saying that fist is not good at all. But maybe you can put it as your last options instead of the first one. Anger can destroy everything. Only those 'short-thinking' peopl don't see it as a problem. No matter how educated you are, how successful you are, if you cannot manage your anger, you can't work with people. To be employed...?? Not a chance! To work on your on..?? How you want to communicate with people with that anger?? I, myself don't want to be involved to that kind of people. You can't predict what they will do, I become very insecure around them.
Well, you never solve a problem with your anger by ur side. That's why anger management is very important. Its been promoted everywhere. My advice is simple, use ur mind first before other part of your body react. Especially for guys, you've been given 9 minds and 1 lust by Allah SWT. Don't let that one portion of lust taking control of that 9 portion of ur minds. Don't waste it just like that.
I pray to Allah SWT to avoid me to be around these kind of people. Because I don't have the ability and patience to handle these kind of people. Its very annoying. Before I also change and become like them, let me just be far from them. People say, your environment makes ur personalities. So if you don't want to be negative people, stay away from negative people.

*for those who knows me, they know why this story come out...